Originally Posted by Dianida
I was interested in Steve's question as to why are some children abused - are they attracting abuse? Well in many ways they often are by being targeted as the most vulnerbale within the 'pack' whether it be in a family or school or other child 'group', by their behaviour. Certain charactersistics will draw an abuser such as low self worth, isolation from others, introversion, neediness etc Therefore yes the LoA exist through manifest behaviours which a child is quite unaware of.
I was an abused child. I don't mean that in the sense that people so often mean it today - being yelled at or spanked - but an actual violent home. I have to live with cigarette scars on my arms and other less happy memories.
There are three children in my family, and two of us definitely "got it worse." Sure, LoA applies. We were the emotionally sensitive children and my father preyed on that. Our sensitivity restrained us from ruining our father's life by telling what sort of person he really was. I had scars to prove this, but I cared more about protecting him. We are products of our environment. This is why my father and I don't talk. Now that I've stood up to him, he won't speak to me. It doesn't really hurt. He knows now if he harmed me, I will not protect him.
I had to intentionally become a different person. It's funny; I was taking a personality test today and realized I didn't even get the same results I got years ago on the same test. The people I am attracting right now in my life tend to be a lot like me - damaged but improving, educated, fun, smart. It makes me feel good overall.