Old Soul,
"I can forgive, but I cannot forget." (not sure exactly where it came from)
I think that is a rather useful way to look at terrible things that have happened to us. Forgetting is denying what has happened. Self-denial.
Forgiving is a matter of letting hate and disgust out of your heart. You don't need to love the perpetrator as you do your friends and family, but you can forgive him/her by not allowing their vicious deeds to take over your soul and heart.
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