Yes dating is a good time to discover what you really want in a person. But I still think you can make your list with some critical thinking, as I've known people who never dated but got the relationship of their dreams on the first try. Rare, but it can happen.
In my experience I have found that character is the most important thing because that is what is unlikely to change. If they are honest when you meet them, they will probably still be honest 20 years later. The other stuff, the compatibility stuff, can change on a dime. Maybe she isn't into skiing now, but she can either learn to like it or you can use skiing as an opportunity to just go with the guys.
Compatibility traits like, "Likes sci fi movies, likes going to vegas, loves gardening just like I do" are not solid enough to make a lasting relationship in and of themselves.
In the beginning of a relationship it always seems so important that the person likes what you like and likes to do what you like to do. That is important, yes, but if that's all you like about them, they are a friend, not a partner.
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