I found it interesting recently that sometimes people who have passed over stay around us because they need to say things that they weren't able to say when they were alive.
I did a reading several weeks back for a friend who had lost her husband suddenly. My friends mother had passed away a few years ago. I'd met her mother several times and had admired her strength of character and had watched the care my friend had taken of her in the years leading up to her death. I'd assumed that there was a great deal of love between them.
When the mother stepped forward, she stood watching for awhile like she was waiting for something. Each time I looked at her, she just stood stoically waiting. I couldn't work out what she waiting for. I told my friend her mother was there and she didn't seem very interested. After I'd mentioned the mother was still there a couple of times my friend eventually sighed, 'Oh what does she want. I wish she wouldn't hang around. She makes me feel heavy and depressed.'
I must have looked surprised because she said, 'Look I made my peace with my mother a long time ago but we didn't have an easy relationship when I was younger. She made my life very difficult. I never understood what I'd done to make her treat me so badly but I did love and forgave her in her later years.'
Then I saw a little dog at her mothers feet. I described the dog to my friend and she told how much she'd loved it. She'd only had for a short while as a child. She said, 'You ask my mother what happened to it?'
Then the mother started to explain things that my friend only knew parts of. How her father had been engaged to someone else before he met her mother. The other lady was very beautiful. He had been in love with her and she had broken off the engagment to marry someone else. Her mother had always felt second best.
My friend said, 'But my father adored my mother and showed it all the time. My mother used to shrug him off.' Her mother would never allow herself to believe it and my friend was young she adored her father and they were very close. Her mother was very jealous of their relationship and sabotaged my friend wherever she could. Her mother became more resentful of her after her father died, when my friend was in early twenties, because she had shared a bond with him that the mother had craved. How sad that something like that can cause so much pain for both of them.
One of things I noticed while I was doing the reading was that several other close family members gaily flitted in and out with pieces of news and seemed unaware of the mother and she of them. There was interaction between a couple of them and as they moved away they travelled right past her.
My friends sister who'd passed away many years ago was so light she was almost transparent. Her energy filled the room with light and laughter compared to the mother who still very dense and physical in appearance. My friend had noticed the marked difference between their energies and said her sisters energy had been light since not long after her death.
Lallymac
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