Originally Posted by Old Soul
I am looking at it like a lightworker, sees others, then self, where as darkworker sees self and how others can give to that self .... I believe you are either others motivated or self motivated.......
And that all makes sense, but I don't see how focus "from" self is a better term than focus "on" self.
On the other hand, it may be a minor vocabulary difference, not worth discussing.
I still think the relationship of a darkworker and lightworker as having alot of conflicts
Well, I can't argue that it takes effort. My best friend and I stopped speaking in 10th grade because of (I realise now) differing polarities. She was the child of 2 divorces, about to be the child of a third, and had come to the conclusion that you couldn't trust or rely on anyone. (In her case, a reasonable assumption). But she did care for me, and it made her frightened that I was polarizing towards light/love/others. She kept trying to pull me to dark/fear/self, and I wouldn't come. It eventually became easier to let schoolwork interfere with our relationship. So I can hardly argue that differing polarities wouldn't be a problem.
BUT we were both very low consciousness at the time - using Steve's scale where most people can swing from -3 to +3, we were both about at -1/2 to +1/2. Also, I had no idea what love/fear polarization was, and therefore had no real conception of what the problem was - I only knew that she wanted me to do something that I couldn't accept. If I met her again today, I'd be happy to be her friend, and agree that both of us had chosen different paths but we could still take the journey together.
So I guess it's not fair of me to say that a relationship between a lightworker and a darkworker wouldn't have conflicts, wouldn't be difficult. But I don't think it's fair to say that it inherently, inevitably won't work, either. I think a much more important factor is the consciousness level of the two people involved - high consciousness people can work out and learn to live with their differences, whether that's polarization, religion, belief about child raising, opinions on abortion, bedtime, whatever. Low consciousness people are far more likely to keep arguing and trying to change the other person until they divorce.