I just want to reply back to the very original topic.
Perhaps for darkworker, relationships isn't so much about fearing of being alone or all the other negative things. But relationships, is to merely include others whom you feel worthy, as part of your selfishness, as part of your inward world to grow together with.
Not so sure if I'm making any sense, but that's what me, as a darkworker see my own relationships as. I'm mainly referring to love relationships here by the way.