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Originally Posted by quiethumir  Can a super shy, quiet, slow guy turn into a super confident, charismatic, witty person? |
After reading all the comments, this is what I have to say
Are you comparing yourself to someone you know, that you would like to be more like? IF so, be careful of comparisons. Sometimes the super popular charismatic people have issues that prevent them from deeper emotional intimacy. Attracting people initially is one skill...keeping them around is an entirely different skill set. Being charismatic and roundly popular can bring a great deal of gratification, and is worth pursuing if you are unhappy with yourself.
But remember that even if you achieve a greater height of confidence, charisma, and wit, you dont want it to look like anybody else's. YOu have to form your own version or it will be pointless. Maybe its a combination of your shyness and confidence. There's nothing wrong with being shy
The main thing is, that trumps everything, is that people like people who are respectful and considerat of them. Treat as you would be treated. Considering the feelings and space of others goes a long way. This would prevent pushy peole from being pushy, overly aggressive people from being overly aggressive. Also humility is important. YOu can be confident but also humble. A lack of humility, and a blown up ego, is usually what leads a guy to be what we call a "dork"...someone always trying to be funny and popular, but never pulling it off. Instead of being natural, he forces it and becomes overbearing.
WE all know people who are the center of attention. Sometimes these people pull it off well. I know a guy that i akinda like right now, i like him a lot and posted a thread about it...but i realize that he manifests some attention-grabbing behavior, and that is a sign of immaturity i think. Treat people as individuals.
I have known quite a few outgoing guys whose routine ended up stale and old. Whatever your goals, are, be real.