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Originally Posted by ZephyrusX

and seemingly against my will, I attract people into my life.

I still think of my self as a loner, so I experience some cognitive dissonance when I get people willingly opening up to me and talking to me about their lives. 'What the hell? You want to talk to me? What are you up to? '

Thus, the cat avatar!

Originally Posted by James81

some ideas, experiences, and concepts might feel so foreign to you that you might think they are completely out of your power...until you become aware of what is internally directing you and become aware that you have a choice (and to be aware of that choice at an unconscious level).

So the trick is getting into the unconscious level to direct things more consciously.

"I believe that *I* am a great place to be and, as such, I find myself wanting to bring people into my world so that they can experience all the great things I have to offer."

And he's able to have the "so they can experience how AWESOME I am" mentality without being an d***, the way some do? I know there is a way to be that way. Sorry if you said this already somewhere that I missed, did you talk to him about it after? Curious what else he might have said.

But it's not something you figure out or even something you ACT out (act as if). It's a role that you internally identify with that you create reference experiences out of.

Which is why it's hard for someone with that quality to tell you "how". One thing for me is the "create reference experiences" part... that's one of the things I have to learn to do. Because...

(Until you create those reference experiences...i.e. experiences that confirm what you believe about yourself...it doesn't become your reality, though.)

Originally Posted by jellybeanpimp

I never met a charismatic baby.

Who's more charismatic than babies? People always swarm around them except people that don't like babies.

It's something you can learn, it's something that can come, and it's something that can go.

True at least sometimes. I'm waiting to see what happens with the guy I mentioned earlier. Will he keep his mojo or will it dissolve at any point?

Originally Posted by OptimistPrime

People aren't born with Charisma; they roll 3d6 for it.

lol!