Originally Posted by Rezzy7
The one guy I know who is insanely charismatic was just born that way. People will literally do anything for him, especially women. They think he's the most amazing person ever in the history of persons. Don't know how one would learn to do what he does, but I'd like to.
There is a quote by Carl Jung that I really love: Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.
That's so true. I think that's saying that some ideas, experiences, and concepts might feel so foreign to you that you might think they are completely out of your power...until you become aware of what is internally directing you and become aware that you have a choice (and to be aware of that choice at an unconscious level).
This feeds into an experience I had a little over 2 years ago now, where I first tasted what a change in identity can do and the impacts it can have on your life. I was visiting a rather charismatic cousin of mine for a weekend and at some point in that weekend I heard him talking with one of his friends (and I've told this story a zillion times here before) and all I caught of that conversation was what he said:
"Some people think of going great places and doing great things. But I don't see it that way. I believe that *I* am a great place to be and, as such, I find myself wanting to bring people into my world so that they can experience all the great things I have to offer."
I was floored by that statement (and in my drunken state, I figure I was highly susceptible to it's influence
), and I began to see all the ways, at the time, that I too was a great place to be. And it was like I became a different person for that entire week. I was outgoing, social, and completely the opposite of what i had been prior to that weekend. I really saw firsthand how powerful your internal image of yourself can be projected outwardly to your experiences. And things grew from that experience and I saw identity (and then purpose) in a completely new light.
Charisma, quite simply, is a way of being...something that you identify with at an internal level, and it's directly proportional to how much you BELIEVE (truly believe that is) you can be charisma(or charismatic).
Anybody in this thread can be the type of person you are talking about. But it's not something you figure out or even something you ACT out (act as if). It's a role that you internally identify with that you create reference experiences out of. (Until you create those reference experiences...i.e. experiences that confirm what you believe about yourself...it doesn't become your reality, though.)
Interesting enough, you're already believing some things about yourself, that you have plenty of reference experiences for. And those things, whether they be conscious or unconscious at this point, are powerfully guiding your life, your body language, and the way you present yourself to the world.
And, most importantly, you have all the power and ability in the world to change that if you so choose.