Originally Posted by Grandiouse
I enjoyed the tip on intending for oneself. But then, how do we go about manifesting relationships that we want without visualizing the other people there with us?
You can manifest relationships with a specific person, as long as your perceptions of that person do not contradict your intentions/desires.
If, in the back of your mind, you keep thinking "Sally doesn't like guys like me, I'll always just be a friend.", it doesn't matter how often you visualize yourself with her, because those thoughts will contradict your intention. Examine the ways you think
this person views you, what you think
this person thinks of you. If you are displeased with the way you assume this person thinks of you, than change that assumption to one that is more satisfying and inline with your intention.
It's not that it's impossible to manifest for others. Let's bring back the bakery example. If I desired to start a bakery, and I intended to own a successful bakery with all of my friends, this desire might get stuck because my perceptions of my friends include them each having their own individual goals, desires, and paths to take, that don't include a bakery. So, by including them into the intention, I am contradicting what I actually want, because deep down I know Tom wants to be a rockstar, and Jill wants to spend her life taking care of penguins. In my perceptions of them, a bakery isn't actually apart of their path, even though I might truly want to intend to start one with them. So it's easier just to manifest for ourselves.
But with relationships, I'd say it's possible, as long as you know exactly how you view that other person, and you are aware of how you think
they view you. Thinking "She only thinks of me as a friend", while trying to manifest that relationship into something more, isn't going to work. Changing that perception will create the reflected change in that relationship, as long as you are honest.
Think of most of your relationships you have right now, with friends, family members, lovers, enemies...whoever. They are all exact representations of how you assume that person to be, and how you assume they view you. If you think all of your friends judge you, this will be the truth. It will change the way you behave around your friends and create that reality. If you think all of your friends love you, this will be the truth. Your behavior will be more freeing around your friends, more open and more "you".
How does thinking "She only views me as a friend" effect ones behavior around a woman that he likes, and wants to have a deeper, more intimate relationship with? How would changing that perception to something more satisfying create a resulted change in behavior, and therefor a change in the interactions between them?
People create their own social situations. Some people have social anxiety that they create themselves. Some people are social butterflies and everybody loves them. It's all about the attitudes, and perceptions these people bring to the table when approaching social situations. Those with social anxiety probably approach social situations with fears of being judged or assuming that nobody is going to like them. How does this affect their behavior? It probably closes them off, makes them awkward, and creates situations for them to be judged. Where the person who approaches that same situation with the attitude of "I'm awesome, these people think I'm awesome" are going to have much different behaviors and interactions. And nothing/body forces you to view yourself anyway. This is all self created, you are free to view yourself any way that you would like to.
Well I went off on a tangent there. LOL.