Oh my goodness, Roaring Springs... your situation is nearly identical to my own. I'm a character designer by nature (looks at own name) and five years ago I 'designed' my perfect mate. I've been seeking him ever since. Five years. I also have a mother who doubts (though she's not quite so negative as yours, you poor dear), and other family members, too. I shall have to come back here and put my own topic about it.
I also couldn't help but notice that your list had quite a few traits similar to my own (though not all of them). I'm a 19-year-old heterosexual female who has many subtle traces of autism and lives in her own head, so is quiet much of the time. And yet I can turn around and be loud and theatrical other times. I'm also a Capricorn, a virgin, and drug-free, and I just love skinny girly fellows (especially those who are Asian or part Asian
). HOWEVER, I'm not that into shopping or riding highways or power rangers, and tattoos scare me, XD. And I have never even held a fellow's hand before so I don't know how good I am at intimacy. BUT! Know that your preferences CAN exist in combination, and don't give up, R.S.!