This is encouraging
. I'm curious how long it was between this shift you took and when your husband began asking for sex?
Btw, it seems to me like your sex drive may be quite normal - and his not. Though I don't have any experience in being sexually active, 6 times a year seems way little, even to me. I feel beyond certain that that would be a big problem for me too.
Originally Posted by James81
Interesting, the "IT'S NONE OF MY BUSINESS" thing sounds more like a gremlin to me. (And I don't even have gremlins on the brain very much these days.
Interesting enough, I know you worry about being delusional. But it's this thread that's sorta made me realize that it's not that you are delusional, it's that you delude yourself. Perhaps I'm the only one who reads this and thinks that telling yourself that your husbands sexuality is none of your business seems like an attempt to bury your head in the sand. If there's one thing that IS your business, it's your husband's desire for you and the intimacy that comes with that.
On the flip side, I'm glad that the angsty feelings have gone away. I hope that I'm wrong and that they stay away for good and that this is the start of something good.
I agree that her husband's sexuality is absolutely her business, but I don't see any delusion anywhere.
I really love your approach Sandra. That's why I am also in the process of using it within a relationship (hence my first question). I got guidance to do so last year during a reiki session on myself.
And I love this video clip of Abraham-Hicks that says something to the effect of find someone and then make the relationship how you want it, because we are the ones who create the dynamics in a relationship. The clip gives a perfect example of how our attitude can bring out different responses and facets of people. YouTube - ‪Abraham - Is this the 'right' relationship?‬‏
Aha! The exact quote is: "Find something and make it right." "Find a relationship and make it right."