Originally Posted by psionyx
This seems like a key realization.
I'm relatively new here, but you seem like a very openly sexual person. So I am curious as to what brought you to the decision to stay? Or was leaving never an option? Is this "settlling", and do you think it may be something you regret someday?
Apologies if you've explained this elsewhere.
I don't think this is settling. For me settling is wanting something different but putting up with bad things because you don't think you can get better...
The question that I asked myself (and took a long time in finding the answer) was: If I could be with someone else, who I would love just as much and who would love me just as much... Who would be everything that my husband is, except with a higher sex drive... would I rather be with him instead of my husband?
And the answer is "no, I want to be with my husband".
Even though I am a very sexual being, and although sex is extremely important to me, it turns out, it is not a deal breaker for me...
There is no logical reasoning to it. It is a choice though, one that I am making with my eyes wide open and taking full responsibility for.