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Originally Posted by ssandra

1. It is NONE OF MY BUSINESS why he doesn't want to have sex with me and maybe does (or doesn't) with others.

2. I trust him completely, I know that he would never purposefully would harm me. I trust that if he could choose to have sex with either me or someone else, he would choose me. And I accept that he can want to have sex with someone else and not with me, without making it any of my business.

That last one did cost me a lot of work. Not the trust part, but the "not making it about me" part. But with the trust, and accepting, and taking my responsibility for releasing control... it works

That's awesome