Originally Posted by votoshka
However, I do have one question
. The biggest problem in your relationship with your hubby is that you have more sex drive than him, and thus that you're not getting enough I guess
. So how would you feel if instead of turning to you when he felt the urge, he had sex with other women?
I mean, I get the open relationship thing, that's cool. But I imagine that if it was my relationship, and I wasn't getting enough sex from my husband (whether or not I wanted sex with other men) I'd be upset if he was off having sex with other women and not me... and basically, leaving me frustrated while pleasuring others!
I understand where you are coming from, and you make a logical point.
However there are 2 things that matter a lot to me:
1. It is NONE OF MY BUSINESS why he doesn't want to have sex with me and maybe does (or doesn't) with others.
2. I trust him completely, I know that he would never purposefully would harm me. I trust that if he could choose to have sex with either me or someone else, he would choose me. And I accept that he can want to have sex with someone else and not with me, without making it any of my business.
That last one did cost me a lot of work. Not the trust part, but the "not making it about me" part. But with the trust, and accepting, and taking my responsibility for releasing control... it works