I am a psychic, but in my experience I've always found that when people are truly able to let go of the dream and honestly love their own selves and their own lives, it will happen.
I know you say you're not looking, but ask yourself what that means. Does it just mean you don't date that much, but are always thinking about it? Does it mean you don't date that much but when you do you always have it in the back of your mind, "could this be it?"
My advice is focus on being happy alone. Go out and date. Date a lot! But do it just for fun. Don't get too heavily involved with anyone, just ... have ... fun and expect that to be the extent of whatever it will be. That way you won't be disappointed if it doesn't work out (in fact, you'll probably be the one to break it off) but if it does, great! The minute you hit that magical mark, I bet you'll meet someone and think, "Crap, I didn't have enough time having fun with all these people!"
Hope this helps.