Hello
I have a huge problem. I just got done talking to my bf's sister online via PM. She told me to tell my bf to call her when he gets home from work because she told me that she and her mother (my future MIL) are coming over to visit when my bf gets home from work.
Our house is a wreck with laundry and other things on the floor mainly due to the fact that we are attempting to remodel the house. His family are under the influence of the idea that its the womans job to keep the house clean no matter what the man does.
Ive made it clear to my bf when we got together that I wasnt gonna play the role of the housemaid. Keeping an obsessive compulsive spotlessly clean house hasnt ever been on my list of top priorities. That being said we dont live like white trash neither, we're just relaxed...and have loads of laundry on the floor of our bedroom to prove it lol
Anyhow everytime theyve visited in the past, theyve always had the audacity to publicly outright blame me for the reason the house is dirty saying that thats what I am there for--to clean house and clean up after my bf.
I bite my tongue for my bf's sake, cause he KNOWS that I would just as soon rake his relatives asses over the coals and kick them out of our house for saying that to me. He respects that I am not the housemaid. Besides, in our house, the rules go that I am in charge of the dishes and HE is in charge of the laundry.
His problem is he cannot stand up to his family when they put him on the spot. Like when they invite themselves over. They dont put it in an asking way. Basically they TELL him that theyre coming over to visit and he just caves in every time. Now I have gotten after him about this before but hes the type that doesnt wanna step on anyone's toes. this is a good and a bad point.
For example, last time one of his family from his mothers side came to visit it went almost the same way. his youngest sister basically called him and told, not asked, that she was gonna be at a restaurant and basically wedged my bf into a corner so that he would go and let her follow him to our house. We were coming home from doing something, I forget what at the time...but his response to me was to drop me off at home and have me clean as much of the house as I could before him and his sister got there. (I refused to do that strictly out of principle)
He gets home from work at 5PM EST (Eastern Standard Time). I have from now till then to think up of something.
ANY ADVICE?!?!?!
