[LianaG]

Hi,

I wanted to reply to this post.

Dear Xuan,

I have spent the last 10 years training in Deida's work and practising what his work entails.

What you are practising currently is not 'it', so many people read his words but in truth do not know how to put it into practice. I takes too long to go into all the detail - but I do suggest you read all of his books.

I remember several years ago meeting a man who travelled around the USA with a copy of one of David's books under his arm, but his interactions with many women only left them all suffering.

Some men just like to open women and aren't capable of going all the way, perhaps he is one of them. (Women do their own inappropriate things with this work too)

I suspect unfortunately at this point, your boyfriend is creating a lot of suffering.

To play in the realm of Deida's work you must know what is trustable about the partner you are with. At present this man does not seem very trustable or integrious.

It might also be worthwhile to look at the work of Harville Hendrix - the IMAGO, where the shadow of ourselves and our partners come into the light of day.

I would love to say 'leave him' but I know in my heart of hearts that is a very hard thing for a woman to do. He is now your him-shaped void, you've taken him into your heart and into your body and you are now stuck with his shape, and that wont change until another man or you allow god to enter more deeply.

The great thing about doing a Deida workshop is that you dont work with your partner, I dont know if you are doing a weekend or an intensive - a weekend workshop is very basic, if you are doing the intensive you will definitely receive more clarity on the issues at hand. At least in the weekend you will experience what good men are like.

I dont believe you can help him see, it's just your way of bargaining to stay in the relationship.

I hope you find peace and courage.
Liana