06-19-2011, 06:37 PM
Join Date: Nov 2010
Location: West Coast USA
I get this feeling a lot, too, so I can relate. It's really interesting you're doing well in other areas, but having dissatisfaction in this one. Again, I can relate! I have no suggestion except reiterating what you already know, release the thought that love=pain, and let go of worry about your bio-clock, the same thing happening over and over, and all that. For me I found The Sedona Method works well. Good luck, you seem to be close to working it out.
Originally Posted by danas
Without one person to share my life with I do not see the point anymore.
Very interesting post and perspective, Sav thanks. I like it. For years I have approached each new person with the attitude we are already friends, though that has had limited effectiveness. This is something that can take some getting used to, but it feels right for me, somehow.
Originally Posted by Savage
I can relate to what you're saying about depth though, but that's the benefit of deepening your relationship to life itself. If you see yourself as having just one relationship -- with life -- then it can always go deeper. It doesn't matter which particular human being you connect with. You don't have to do any special ice-breaking. Just continue where you left off with the next person in terms of what you'd like to talk about and discuss with life.
I realize that may sound very strange, but if you can get your head around it, it works beautifully.
For instance, last week I had meet-ups with several different people for the first time. With most of them I discussed subjective reality in some manner, but I didn't restart from scratch with each person. I simply continued to explore the aspects that interested me with each new person as if I was having a singular discussion with life, each time picking up where I left off. I found every conversation fascinating.
Whenever I meet someone for the first time, I tend to assume that our relationship is already at the maximum emotional intimacy and that we're already best friends. So there's no real need to deepen anything. I can simply tap into and enjoy the depth that I assume is already there.