I have found a good deal of joy in moving from a fixed mind-set. As the perspective changes: beliefs change. The attributes I have striven for in recent years happen to have come from seemingly adverse situations (these have brought a good deal more growth than the so-called "happy-times"): flexibility, honesty, appreciation, non-attachments. What I consider often is that if we look for something in a particular way and at a particular time (tunnel-vision): we might miss an important discovery/relationship/advancement. We can only see what we believe is possible.