Originally Posted by danas
Im feeling so down
Theres a lot to appreciate in my life. But I feel so down because there's no one partner to share it with.
Without one person to share my life with I do not see the point anymore.
I give so much love and time and acts of kindness to my friends and family. But where is my partner?
My career is going so well now. Financially Im doing well. Health-wise I look and feel great... Thank God. but I dont know what to do.
Love for me is torture. Lets face it. Its just torture for me to open up and get close to someone because I feel so much pain when I realize its never gonna happen with my love interest. Again and again I face rejection.
Why is this pattern happening?
Maybe I get too close too soon. But whats too soon? I get close after a few weeks of mutual closeness.
I attract men who are more and more suitable for me. And then when it doesnt work out it hurts much more.
How do I get out of this pattern?
What actions can I take now?
Yes, if Im brutally honest. In my world Love equals pain.
So how do I get that out of my system?
This is how it is designed. You need to learn from it. When you want love to help you, then it will not work. Maybe you should use love to help others. Maybe you should help strangers. I am not a Christian but Jesus said that any jerk will help a friend.
I am sure that Hitler would help Goerring or Goebles. "Many countries fought in World War 2 and the leaders of some countries became famous as a result of the war. For example, Roosevelt, Churchill & Stalin became famous as the competent leaders of the Allies. On the other side of the fence, Hitler, Goering, Goebbels, Hess, Himmler, Bormann, and Speer became famous as German leaders."
Jesus said that for someone to help an enemy, that is a great thing.
This little old lady was poor and had no boyfriends. But she helped people and got a Noble prize for peace. She took a vow of poverty, chastity and obedience. Mother Teresa - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Following her death she was beatified by Pope John Paul II and given the title Blessed Teresa of Calcutta.
By the 1970s, she was internationally famed as a humanitarian and advocate for the poor and helpless, due in part to a documentary and book Something Beautiful for God by Malcolm Muggeridge. She won the Nobel Peace Prize in 1979 and India's highest civilian honour, the Bharat Ratna, in 1980 for her humanitarian work.
I use to light my hands on fire and they got burned. I wondered why life was so cruel. Then I entertained the idea that maybe I was wrong and I stopped lighting my hands on fire and they no longer got burned.
Maybe you should re-think your strategy in life since it is not working!