To give a different take on what ssandra said, you can assert that love is pain. It's also exhilaration, joy, discovery, comfort, etc.
Often the problem with something is not how we define it, but that we A) resist our definition and B) mistake that for the entirety of what it is.
You can't accept one end of the spectrum without accepting both. If you strive to succeed, you will experience failure sometimes. If you laugh you'll also cry. If you're afraid, you might get angry.
Lean into it. Explore it. Take it all just as it is and remember that you are the master-all of this, even the most torturous parts of your existence, can serve a purpose. In the end it's up to you whether struggle and heartbreak are tragedies or beautiful experiences in their own right which aid your growth.
Odd as it may sound, I don't think I'd want to love someone if I wouldn't shed tears for them someday. That something would move me so deeply means that somehow I have been forever changed and though the relationship may end, be it death or some other way, a part of it will last within me-indeed the bond itself may remain and bring our spirits back together during another journey.
A little transient pain is well worth that, I think.
Last edited by Cado; 06-18-2011 at 03:54 AM.