Originally Posted by danas
Can you elaborate?
Yeah, what I mean is that a very large portion of relationships fail. And that is the relationships that are supposed to "last" (i.e. marriages or something akin to marriage). The current statistics are that 50% of marriages end in divorce, and that's just the ones that have FILED for divorce. That's not counting those who separate and never file, nor is it taking into account the people who stay together, but are literally miserable together.
I think that with crappy of a track record, we would realize that our model of the ideal relationship is horribly off-base and we would try something else. Maybe in a few millenia.
Until that day, though, I've decided to be a leader in what *I* want out of a relationship. I decided that instead of the "two halves becoming whole" model that our society is currently using, that's I'd much prefer a 1+1 = 100 model (i.e. "synergistic model") rooted in interdependence (i.e. two completely independent people who synergize in such a way that the whole is greater than the sum of its parts).
Now, if love is pain for you, then I've got a question for you: when did love first equal pain for you? This thread isn't the first time this has showed up, is it?