Originally Posted by Savage
Then you'll need to focus on your relationship with the universe itself. That's the only relationship that will last. All the others are temporary -- they'll either end in separation or death.
If you get overly attached to your relationship with any particular person and whether or not that lasts, you're being overly clingy and will probably end up sad, frustrated, and disappointed.
Life has a tremendous amount of richness to offer, but how it shows up isn't up to you.
If you feel insecure with relationships that keep changing, stop looking to a static relationship to make you feel secure. Look instead to your greater relationship with life itself, and get your security needs met at that level. Then the people you relate to can shift around lots, and it won't cause you to feel so unbalanced.
You'll always feel some degree of insecurity if you try to root your security to that which is temporary.
Yes, you are right that relationships change and I should simply accept that.
Its like I go about enjoying my life having fun and then some wonderful person joins me and its amazing, incredible. And I want to express my love and I want it to get deeper, and when that ends after about 30 intense days together, Im like , oh. not again
. We were hardly scratching the surface...
But Im also at a point where I want to connect with someone and have babies.
This is a deep desire, which you may or may not understand.
But for me its probably the strongest desire of my life right now.
And there is the biological clock...
Believe me, if not this, Id be much cooler.