Originally Posted by danas
Id like to create a relationship that lasts. a relationship that stands a chance. Because this pattern is starting to get boring.
Then you'll need to focus on your relationship with the universe itself. That's the only relationship that will last. All the others are temporary -- they'll either end in separation or death.
If you get overly attached to your relationship with any particular person and whether or not that lasts, you're being overly clingy and will probably end up sad, frustrated, and disappointed.
Life has a tremendous amount of richness to offer, but how it shows up isn't up to you.
If you feel insecure with relationships that keep changing, stop looking to a static relationship to make you feel secure. Look instead to your greater relationship with life itself, and get your security needs met at that level. Then the people you relate to can shift around lots, and it won't cause you to feel so unbalanced.
You'll always feel some degree of insecurity if you try to root your security to that which is temporary.