Thanks everyone
I have calmed down and Im feeling better.
Been through a lot past too days mixed with jetlag.
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Originally Posted by st33med  Keep failing and being rejected and feel proud of yourself.  When you open up and they reject you, your doing what most others couldn't bare to do. Failure doesn't have to be negative.
If they were suitable for you, then why doesn't it work out? |
Thanks. Thats a nice way of seeing it.
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Originally Posted by rawxstasy I think you have a pattern of loving men who are married? |
Not really, only the last one was... but I dont think thats the problem.
I think thats the result of the problem.
Like I am so used to experiencing love as pain that I chose it again and again.
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Originally Posted by taylor People confuse sentimental attachment with love. Attachments are needy but love is giving. When attachments are taken from you they hurt. |
When I realize I can no longer build a deeper relationship with a man I love, it hurts. Not because Im needy, but because Im sad that I can no longer experience the kind of closeness I was enjoying anymore.
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Originally Posted by taylor If you need someone else to "complete you" or make you happy, then when they leave you will feel great pain. You have to learn how to be a happy person in general to be okay with people coming and going in your life. Happy people tend to do better in relationships long term as well. |
thats a bit too simplistic for me.
I know few people who can enjoy their own company as much as I do. I do only what I love doing, everything I do , I do with passion...
I know how to do that. And I am sooo grateful. Everyday I say thank you, and mean it.
I am so blessed I sometimes feel embarrassed to even tell people what Im up too, bc its too dreamlike. I just spent the last 3 weeks in a luxury hotel on a beach being pampered like a queen-all expenses paid- is just one example
But I still dont think that contradicts my desire to share my life with someone
@Solipsist
In a weird way its like Im either happy on my own, so happy that I attract amazing men to my life, but then I get too close too soon and it scares them, and they back off and it ends with me feeling rejected.