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Originally Posted by Angela  Instead, I see people suffering over expectations and perceived debts owed and using words like "cheating" and "betrayal" to describe what could be high expressions of love if it weren't for these rules. |
But is it always an expression of love? If that were the case I might be a little more inclined to change some of my views. For people in open relationships (described in a post by openeyes I think very nicely) I can see a much more thoughtful and loving approach to multiple partners. Most of the extra-relationship/marital nookie I've seen going on was more about not getting enough sex at home or some problem in the relationship that could be addressed without going that route and hurting the person you've agreed to a committment with. And without lying.
To me, if I am a person who is comfortable with myself and responsible for my own happiness, then monogomy becomes all the more natural because I won't be looking for my partner to provide me with anything. Rather I would be sharing the great things in life with someone I enjoy. And if there was a time when he did something that annoyed me or pained me, I would not need to go sleep with someone else to make it better.
Hmm, now I really want to hear what you have to say Matthew.
I don't think monogomy is the best and only way to live. I still feel like it is the way I would like to live.