I will say that monogomy just seems like the thing for me, though I don't expect everyone to agree...just the person I happen to be dating or married to.
As to the avoidance of spreading disease, I wonder how many people who cheat are really careful. I don't suppose there are any studies, but I do hear about a lot of pregnancies resulting from affairs. If that's the case there are obviously people who aren't being too careful.
If people are agreed to having an open relationship, I think that's great. What I don't think is great is when one person thinks they are in a monogomous relationship and they are not. Especially if their partner is engaging in less than safe sex.
Jayne, I think what you posted is great. I would wager a lot of the reason behind cheating is more a matter of people looking for fullfilment in others rather than in themselves. When their parter doesn't live up to that, they look elsewhere. I would think most of the people who have multiple partners on principle (as in they don't believe in monogomy) would be upfront about it rather than secretive.
I would like to hear your response to Angela's question too, Matthew. I agree that I don't feel like monogomy is outdated. In fact I think it's a great idea. But that's more of a feeling than a philosophy I have. I am curious to see what you have to say. Maybe you will give a voice to some things or give me something to think about.
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