Posts like these are polarizing because either you identify the people in your life who are "losers", or you identify with the characteristics of being a loser. Once you put that label on yourself, you're basically screwed. It's very hard to change your behaviors if you think you're a loser.
The point is, nobody is a loser. Nobody really has "self-esteem issues", either. We're all raised a certain way and with certain experiences. These experiences determine how we'll act later in life. If you're constantly beat up as a kid, you'll probably find other people threatening. However, imagine if you hadn't been beat up. Imagine if everyone was exceptionally nice and respectful to you. It's easy to see that you'd probably be acting differently today.
And so it is with any behavior. When you identify with that behavior, you're making a fundamental mistake. That behavior is simply the result of past experiences. Those experiences are not you, and you could imagine yourself having different experiences, different behaviors, yet still being the same person.
Once you realize this, it's a lot easier to drop those negative behaviors. Nobody really has any problems, they just have past experiences that affect them in a certain way.
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