I understand your frustation at being dragged down by a few negative people, but have a look at that telling penultiamate paragraph "I tried helping one or two, but they just try to drag you down. "
I'm guessing that you saw them as broken and needing to be fixed, rather than seeing them as people who were doing the best that they could. Did they want your help, ask for it? A lesson it has taken me a while to learn is that it isn't our business to fix others (I've been reading Bryron Katie who says if you are busy taking care of someone else's business, who is taking care of your own?). People resent others interfering in their business, however well intentioned!
Instead of sending these people your scorn, try sending them your love. Love doesn't mean sorting out their problems for them (otherwise how will they grow themselves?) It means treating them with respect and understanding, even if you don't agree with their choices. You don't have to be their best friend, but you don't have to pour scorn on them either. They might hate rich people or beautiful people, but you are pouring hate on them. How are they going to turn things around without a postive example?
The more you focus on how awful negative 'low status' people are, the more you will attract them into your life! Funnily enough I found that some of the negative people in my life just drifted away easily when I stopped focusing on how negative they are and started focusing on being positive myself, the others who stayed became more postive themselves.
The best thing you can do is be a shining example of yourself. I know you think you helping that process by rejecting all 'low status' people and yes while I agree spending ALL your time with negative people can be detrimental to your personal wellbeing, the things that bring up the strongest negative emotions are the things we need to face in ourselves and work through, not run away from.
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