I can identify with some of the characteristics of the opening post and I have to say that this whole issue is alot more complicated than its made out to be. (Also, some of the points raised are actually contradictuory.) I have some very good friends and to be honest if we started treating each other like this then I wouldnt have picked them as friends to begin with. You dont just dump friends when they've outlived thier usefulness - in evlating you to some higher plane.
Anyway, the point I'm trying to make is everyone is different, some people want to change, to pull themselves up and create a better life for themselves ... cutting them off is a selfish thing to do. Why not try and point them in a different direction?
Also, on the subject of smiling ... I smile ALOT, and I'm shy, and I can also get pretty unhappy at times (then I identify it, and force a state change) I smile when I'm nervous and when I see people around. Whats going on on the outside is not always representative of whats going on on the inside.
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