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Originally Posted by pi11  This brings me to the point about actions and words. There is an English idiom that says "Actions speak louder than words", which is more than clear to me now than ever before.
So going further, when we meet a new person, we should place more value on their actions than their words. But this presents a whole bunch of problems.
Actions take time to reveal personal ideologies. Until then words have to be trusted. |
It seems to me that words are also actions of a sort. I think you can tell a lot about a person by what they choose to say, how they choose to say it, etc.
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Originally Posted by pi11 Starting a relationship by being critical is certainly to be very quickly doomed. Not to mention, being critical about everything in a relationship is hardly enjoyable! One must let go of a large number of things and roll with the waves. |
"Critical," I think, implies some sort of judgment--a "should" attitude. I would agree that this is in conflict with the enjoyment of a relationship and the ability to roll with the waves. I'm probably not in the best position give advice on relationships or even much on friendships, but I think one can "make note" and learn about another person without thinking they should change.
Trust is by nature a risk, but not one that need be taken blindly.
-- Daniel Terhorst