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The truth is, there is nothing you can do to fix this for her...nothing you can do to change her behavior. She has to do that for herself and it will only happen when she is good and ready. When she's had enough. Some people take more crap than others to see the light.

You can be there for her if and when she wants to make a change, to help in any way possible. But until that time, you have to focus on yourself. I don't mean that in a selfish way like you don't care about her or want her to get better. The only person you can change is you.

I think this is the point...right now you are just spinning your wheels and going nowhere.