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Originally Posted by annah  As usual, I take credence in your analogies, metaphysics/phors... at the risk of coming off like a victim.... how is the easy way to not personalize your crap that you created...... like, creating that the love of my life asked to break up - yes, i was lost in doubt if i wanted to break up, however, it's the way he did it - like he threw me away like a piece of crap - and we're married mind you - only chose to live apart till i move in at his insistence, then, all the sudden he's making all this money and he's realizing i may 'be in the way of his successs" or, what? he blames me for doubting moving in so now asked me to move out. My friends tell me to nail him with a good divorce atty. I'm hurt nevertheless, miss him, hate him, can't trust him anymore and lost my best friend and respect in a blink of a cosmic eye. whaddya say. |
AH,
You're not probably going to like this, but..............it doesn't matter.
What does matter is that
you created that partner in the first place (remember you're consciousness) for a reason, that person you created and fell in love with is the person you needed to find and fall in love with and now you no longer require that person. It only sounds callous from the limited human POV, which is
not what you really are.
This whole game we're playing is a rollercoaster, you've made it like that so as not to get bored. No one in the history of humaness has ever had it wonderful 100% of the time, to have it like that is pointless.
Your biggest problem right now is seeing it through limited human eyes. These eyes are helpful to experience the pain (pain is good) but the problem lies in becoming comfortable in that pain, in that new environment. Your physical avatar, your human being is baasically a creature of habit, so when something happens we get used to it and want it to stay (lots of money, love, health) but the problem with that is the experience is limited, consciousness gets bored and says "well it's time for a new different experience" and so you lose love, money, health or you gain money, love, health.
Love, then love gone, then pain, then more pain, then accept pain, then get used to pain, then become comfortable with pain and then attract further pain.
It should be........
Love, then love gone, then pain, then some more pain,
then understanding that it was just a creation to experience, no more pain, move on.
The trick is to realise that it's just a simple creation (of yours) you needed to experience and now it's time for a new one.
We can never see past the choices we don't understand.
What that means is unless you understand why you chose it in the first place you're never move past it.
You created it, you've decided you don't need it anymore, now go create something else. The moment you think it's happening to you and you didn't create it, then all your power has gone and you're a victim stuck with a crappy new friend called relationship collapse.
Max