Your mother sounds horrible (no offense, sorry). She seems to be a slave to her addictions, cigarettes and whatever love this guy seems to be giving her. Choosing him over you indicates that she does not understand the value of the deep, unconditional bonds that form a family. Now, if you are trying to do what seems best for your mother, I would try to be more diplomatic from now on. Rebuild the relationship with your mother, but be sure to also keep on the good side of her guy. Meanwhile, keep trying to break her addictions, continuing to gently prod her. You may not succeed, but at least you won't feel guilty for not doing anything. |