Thanks MM19.
Having a woman's perspective, and especially one who's in that situation now, is invaluable. I appreciate your thoughts and advice.
It's been awhile since we've talked. She commented that it's sad that our friendship has suffered as a result of this, but she understands that I'm trying to get past all of this. I explained that it's just too hard for me to stay in contact with her while she's with him. Maybe someday I'll be OK with it, but right now I have to get on with my own life.
I'm dating someone right now (very casually mind you) who is a bit different than her. Much more laid-back. It feels a little bit more my style of partner. Being with this new girl has definitely decreased the amount of hurt I feel and has made me feel better, but I certainly still miss her alot. I know if my ex were to see things getting a bit more serious with this new girl, it would be hard for her, the way it is for me to see her with her new guy.
Maybe she is putting me to a bit of test, maybe she is legitimately moving on with her life. Either way, I'm trying to move on. Being in limbo is not healthy. I'm keeping fit (very fit actually, surfing is my coping mechanism) and always trying to improve who I am, and my interactions with people. Maybe it'll work out for the two of us or maybe we'll find happiness with other people, either way, we'll all be happy I guess so it's win-win.
thanks again for your thoughts and advice.
