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Originally Posted by Analysis Paralysis  What inspires me about getting a relationship?
Connecting with a woman, having someone to deeply care about, sex and improving that experience.
A career?
I get to live by myself and take care of myself (still live with my parents :/)
Asset Column?
I get to ensure that I don't end up working my entire life going through the motions just to make money because I will have assets generating monthly cashflow without my presence, I will be able to eventually quit my job if I want to and do something else without worrying about money. |
What is helpful to me is to describe how I feel where I am at as well. There is a difference to me in moving from a place I like to a place I like even better, and moving from a place that feels bad to a place that feels better.
The difference is that if I am uncomfortable where I'm at, I will not think clearly, I will feel edgy, and the funness of moving to a place that sounds so enjoyable will be replaced by an urgency to move to somewhere more acceptable.
How comfortable are you with where you are at, and the knowledge and skills you have to get to where you want to be? Does it feel like an obvious set of steps to embark on to move towards your goals? Or does it seem confusing what to do next? A good question to ask is "how do I go about getting this?" Where this could be any of those achievements you would like. This question is sometimes blocked by a feeling that something is wrong with me because I do not know the answer. Then you will be unable to jubilantly ask people how they would go about these things, because of the sense that you don't like that you are here.
Once you are comfortable with where you are at, and the knowledge you don't have of the details of the steps to take next, and are 100% okay with this, a whole new world opens. It's okay if you don't know what to do next to find the relationship, or career, or assets that you like to have. We have all been there. Imagine what it would feel like if you felt excitedly welcomed by everyone on the planet, all of whom wanted for you to find exactly what you are looking for. Imagine that everyone is deeply interested in finding out with you what you should do next, and if they didn't have a really good answer, it is because they are just as perplexed as you are.
I love the idea of you having all these things in a way that is amazingly satisfying and exciting for you. If I know of something that will specifically help you, I would not hesitate to share it with you.
The vision I see of you that is the most fun is you being perfectly okay with not knowing the details of how to get to where you want to go, and recognizing that as the details become obvious and clear, you will move immediately to accomplish these details. The difficulty is never in doing what you need to do, but knowing precisely what to do next.