While monogamy may be considered unnatural, I feel like if one agreed to it (which is essentially one of the main agreements of a marriage) that one should abide by it. If one chooses not to (when one realizes how 'unnatural' it is) then exit the marriage and pursue all of the polyamoury you want or bring it up to your spouse and agree on an open marriage.
I am all for polyamoury if that floats someone's boat. However, I feel like if I am in an acknowledged, exclusive relationship with someone, them going behind my back to have a relationship with someone else is dishonest. It's particularly unnerving when I could be exposed to diseases. Tell me how you've embraced polyamoury and want to get it on with other ladies so I can decide whether I think it's a great idea or whether I would rather find someone who shares my love of monogomy. The people doing it on the DL are just trying to have their cake and eat it too. And that is my very bitter opinion for what it's worth.
There are lots of people who I 'click' with. During the low points in a relationship they might look pretty good, but I am the common denominator in any relationship I am in, so my problems with one would follow me to the other. And I would hate myself for lying and cheating. So it's not for me and I wouldn't want it done to me.
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