One way I've found to lessen anger is to try and empathize with the other person. If I try and look at it through their eyes, I realize that they are not trying to hurt me with whatever it is that I am angry about, they are simply trying to help themselves. Knowing that the person I'm angry at is simply not trying to hurt me (even if they are intentionally hurting you, it is for selfish reasons, and they would not be hurting you without those reasons) really helps cool things down so that I can step back and ask myself what I'm so afraid of that I have gone into an aggressive state against this person (imo, anger is a result of fear, and fear is a lack of acceptance of the nature of reality).
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