Originally Posted by spacecadetglow
My favorite stuff of yours to read was always SR and relationships. You should write some more about it, maybe something about the process you've been through to make this shift. I want to know what's difficult for you, what you haven't yet perfected about this approach. Just an idea, really enjoying this topic. I think it was timely for many of us.
One challenge is just remaining unattached to outcomes and letting go of expectations. The better I'm able to do that, the more I feel like I'm in the flow when I'm connecting with someone.
So even if I'm talking to someone about working together, or if I'm doing a phone consult, or if I'm meeting new people at a meetup, I push myself to remain open and see where the connections want to flow. They may lead down paths I never would have expected.
Relationships are always in motion, and they don't seem to like being locked down and labeled. That just stifles them.
Another challenge is getting used to all the ambiguity. I suspect that as I keep going down this path, I'll end up with numerous people in my life who could be classified with lots of different labels simultaneously, such as intimate friend, lover, activity partner, coworker, business contact, etc.
I'm already experiencing a lot of ambiguity, and it definitely takes some getting used to. My heart loves the feeling of openness, but my mind keeps wanting to lock things down by asking things like, "Are we going to do business together or not?" or "Are we going to end up in bed together or not?" or "Where does this person fit into my existing social network?"
I'm giving myself time to just get used to the ambiguity. There's a temptation to want to push things forward, so I can nudge people towards certain labels, but I'm doing my best to avoid that.
This ambiguity creates a certain positive tension. It's a feeling that good things are unfolding in each moment, but I can't predict where they're leading. It's like watching a suspenseful movie where you just don't know what's going to happen next.