Originally Posted by Savage
Romantic is just another label. So is depth. As soon as you label a connection as romantic or deep, you choke it from flowing into something more flexible.
From the subjective standpoint, all relationships are already deep from the get-go if you believe them to be. You can just dive in and start relating to someone as if you're already intimate. This is definitely taking some time to get used to, but that seems to be how it's playing out.
Just recognize that it's a dream, and intimacy is already established. Then notice how quickly the dream characters warm up to it and accept it.
If you want more "irons in the fire", it takes very little time to begin exploring new connections. All you do is shift your attention to whatever new desires you wish to experience, and then follow the guidance of inspiration in the moment.
True that. I'm liking the label free approach for these transitory connections I'm making. A little ways down the road I'd still like to be called someone's girlfriend, but that is a conscious choice, not simply deferring to a societal expectation. Maybe in some cases it's about the relationship you have with the label. If you can make it a positive thing, why not?
I'm living in an ashram right now where no sexual relationships are allowed. So I don't know about putting more irons on the fire now!
but it'll certainly be interesting to experiment with once I get out.
My favorite stuff of yours to read was always SR and relationships. You should write some more about it, maybe something about the process you've been through to make this shift. I want to know what's difficult for you, what you haven't yet perfected about this approach. Just an idea, really enjoying this topic. I think it was timely for many of us.