It takes two to tango!!!
I will be celebrating my 20th wedding anniversary this year and can say I have never cheated on my husband. I am not saying I haven't been propositioned but nothing has presented itself as "worth" breaking my vows, someone's heart that I respect and have spent so much time with. I have not been inside a church (wedding & funerals don't count) since my wedding day but I took my vows seriously. I value myself too much to even think of "shaggin" someone one night to potentially give up all the time I have invested in my marriage. It takes work to have a successful marriage.
I was a teenager when I met my husband so I'm happy that so far we are growing together but who knows what tomorrow brings - I will not take anything for granted. I want my husband to stay interested in me so I have a life that keeps me busy and interesting for me; and the fact he still finds me interesting and I still pique his interest is great. Right now I am focusing on running a marathon in the fall and new career developments. He on the other hand is looking at a career change and I will support him 110%.
To me life is all about ups and downs, changes, you need to give and take and at the end of the day a sense of humour is what is needed to get you through the rough patches.
His grandfather told us something on our wedding day I will never forget. He told my husband (in my presence) three things to a happy marriage are: (he was married over 50 years and idolized his wife).
1. Tell your wife how beautiful she is regularly
2. buy flowers on a regular basis for her
3. buy "just because" gifts on a regular basis to let her know you were thinking of her.
He said if you follow these three things you will never end up divorced.
So far so good.
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