I am not married so I wouldn t know what it feels from the inside.
However, I witnessed a lot of marriages being destroyed through cheating. I would say that the cause of the marriage s disintegration was a lack of communication and excitement that was manifested through the act of cheating. Cheating seems to be a symptom.
My perception of this is that:
Women seem to cheat to get the attention they don t get at home.They tend to desire to build something with the other person. As a result they are more likely to leave their husbands to start a relationship with their lovers. The affair gives them the incentive to get out of the marriage, something they seem not to be able to do by themselves.
The men seem to cheat in order to keep their marriage. That is they get their excitement elsewhere so that they can bear the boredom of their marriage while keeping the commitment.
I agree with the person who says that a lot of people just translate their problems into a new relationship.
Maybe I should work for Hallmark, but I believe in monogamy. However, I am not so candid as to think that a high percentage of people can love and be excited by the same person for 50 years and more.
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