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MM19 · 07-15-2007, 08:48 PM

that so many people are now claiming "monogamy" is unnatural or the root issue here. Bringing in new friends, participating in new activities, revitalizing your love in your relationship bring as much to a relationship as sex with new/other partners. When did we forget the scares of the 1980s with STDs? When did we so easily forget the issue of impregnating someone outside of our relationship? Why are we looking toward polygamy as an option? I think it is lazy and a way of avoiding the painful growth a monogamous relationship can bring. If you are dissatisfied with your sex life, don't feel as stimulated as you did before by your partner/your life, are arguing a lot with your significant other, those problems are as much about you as your partner. To look outside for someone to raise your self-esteem or to make the sex "new and exciting" is just lazy. New problems will just creep up, and in the meantime, you have chosen to spend your time/energy on someone other than the person you committed your life to bc/ they bring out those things in you. They are a teaching tool, not someone to overlook, minimize, expose to STDs and the emotional baggage your new partner has, etc. I know many very happy couples, who have been together 30 years or more, and by working through their issues, they are stronger, happier, and better people, with far better sex lives than they had in their 20s and 30s.

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MM19 Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Iowa Posts: 42	I think it is sad that so many people are now claiming "monogamy" is unnatural or the root issue here. Bringing in new friends, participating in new activities, revitalizing your love in your relationship bring as much to a relationship as sex with new/other partners. When did we forget the scares of the 1980s with STDs? When did we so easily forget the issue of impregnating someone outside of our relationship? Why are we looking toward polygamy as an option? I think it is lazy and a way of avoiding the painful growth a monogamous relationship can bring. If you are dissatisfied with your sex life, don't feel as stimulated as you did before by your partner/your life, are arguing a lot with your significant other, those problems are as much about you as your partner. To look outside for someone to raise your self-esteem or to make the sex "new and exciting" is just lazy. New problems will just creep up, and in the meantime, you have chosen to spend your time/energy on someone other than the person you committed your life to bc/ they bring out those things in you. They are a teaching tool, not someone to overlook, minimize, expose to STDs and the emotional baggage your new partner has, etc. I know many very happy couples, who have been together 30 years or more, and by working through their issues, they are stronger, happier, and better people, with far better sex lives than they had in their 20s and 30s.