[Interpreneur]

Based on some things that have happened around my social circle over the past few months, I am starting to wonder if most people would actually be willing to wreck a marriage and a home --- whether it's their own or someone else's --- just to be with the person they think they love.

I know most people in here will jump the gun and say they wouldn't do it....but I do wonder about most of society.

Example # 1: Sometime in early May I was visiting a happily married friend at his retail store and as we were staring out the window he told me that a girl who worked at the store next door was driving him crazy because she was so beautiful.

Fast forward a few weeks and this girl is now working for him. Fast forward a few more weeks and I find out three things.

a. His wife is pregnant.

b. He wants to divorce her right now.

c. He has rented a condo near his store where his young employee Jessikah (with a K and an H) will be living "for a while".

This is a highly educated and relatively wealthy man with what I thought were supreme moral values. But one 19 year old hottie has turned his world upside down.

Example # 2: In 2005 Cousin A and Cousin B got into a massive argument in my office. Cousin A claimed that Cousin B owed him $10,000 over a business deal gone bad a few years before.

After Cousin B left, Cousin A told me that he was going to make things even by "nailing" his wife. I blew off the comment as stupid jock talk. The arguments between them over the money continued for some time, but I stayed out of it because that had nothing to do with me.

Then a few months ago Cousin B got a DVD in the mail. The DVD allegedly featured Cousin A and Cousin B's wife having sex on several occassions, at different hotels, etc.

I had not talked to either of them for a while, but Cousin B told me everything after he came looking for Cousin A's new address (Cousin A moved to another state last year).

Cousin B and his wife are now going through a very nasty divorce. So in this case, Cousin A wrecked that marriage over money and hatred, but Cousin B's wife just fell into a seduction trap and is just as guilty.

Example # 3: My 29 year old sister is rumored to be having an affair with another friend of mine. They are both married with 3 children each, so that's another time bomb waiting to explode -- and when it does it will take down 8 other people with them. I have talked to both of them, but they are still denying everything, even though they are not doing very much to keep it a secret.

These are adults, so I don't feel the need to babysit them. And they are all educated people with solid careers and as far as I know, doing pretty well financially, so if they need advice, they can afford the best therapy in town.

And I am by no means the morality police. I have my own skeletons in my closet, but I am not married, and as far know I have never slept with a married woman, so in this area I am a saint.

These cases make me wonder if anybody's marriage is really as safe as they think it is. Or if practically every marriage is just one good looking person and a smile away from getting wrecked.