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Jes · 07-15-2007, 03:46 AM

Me, my girlfriend, and all of our friends are potheads. Some of them are alcoholics as well, and a few dabble in cocaine, mushrooms, and who knows what else. But they're all really pleasant people whom you probably wouldn't expect to be so ... dependent. Out of everyone in this group, however, I'm the "responsible" one. I never smoke on my own, rarely drink, and have been consciously distancing myself from this lifestyle recently.

So, as a somewhat responsible person, I try to discourage the people I really care about from doing stupid things. Mushrooms, for example, I find to be stupid. There aren't many physical side effects (aside from the normal ones you get from intentionally giving yourself food poisoning), but the psychological ones can be devastating. Especially to those with a history of mental illness. My girlfriend has a very, very long history of mental illness. And recently, I've noticed her becoming more and more interested in tripping.

Tonight I called her out on it, just to be a friend. I said, "look, I know you're thinking about doing them, but I wouldn't be a good boyfriend or any other kind of friend if I didn't tell you I think it's a bad, bad idea." She's smart, and she knows the reasons why it can be dangerous. So I told her, "I think you're a lot smarter than that; I don't want to make your decisions for you, but I don't want to sit here and not say anything either."

She appreciated it, and said she doesn't have any plans to do it in the future. Still, she gives into peer pressure easily, and I know that I am the only friend she has that would not encourage her to do it. Anyway, my question is, have I done all I can to be a good boyfriend/friend in this situation? Is there anything more that I should be doing, or have I already stepped over the line? I'm really concerned for her, especially since she's been hanging around these other people more often lately, and none of them have any desire to do much beside collect a part-time paycheck, get drunk, and pass out.

Thanks. Sorry that was long.

07-15-2007, 03:46 AM	#1 (permalink)
Jes Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 164	Friends & Drugs: Have I Done All I Can? Me, my girlfriend, and all of our friends are potheads. Some of them are alcoholics as well, and a few dabble in cocaine, mushrooms, and who knows what else. But they're all really pleasant people whom you probably wouldn't expect to be so ... dependent. Out of everyone in this group, however, I'm the "responsible" one. I never smoke on my own, rarely drink, and have been consciously distancing myself from this lifestyle recently. So, as a somewhat responsible person, I try to discourage the people I really care about from doing stupid things. Mushrooms, for example, I find to be stupid. There aren't many physical side effects (aside from the normal ones you get from intentionally giving yourself food poisoning), but the psychological ones can be devastating. Especially to those with a history of mental illness. My girlfriend has a very, very long history of mental illness. And recently, I've noticed her becoming more and more interested in tripping. Tonight I called her out on it, just to be a friend. I said, "look, I know you're thinking about doing them, but I wouldn't be a good boyfriend or any other kind of friend if I didn't tell you I think it's a bad, bad idea." She's smart, and she knows the reasons why it can be dangerous. So I told her, "I think you're a lot smarter than that; I don't want to make your decisions for you, but I don't want to sit here and not say anything either." She appreciated it, and said she doesn't have any plans to do it in the future. Still, she gives into peer pressure easily, and I know that I am the only friend she has that would not encourage her to do it. Anyway, my question is, have I done all I can to be a good boyfriend/friend in this situation? Is there anything more that I should be doing, or have I already stepped over the line? I'm really concerned for her, especially since she's been hanging around these other people more often lately, and none of them have any desire to do much beside collect a part-time paycheck, get drunk, and pass out. Thanks. Sorry that was long.