I think its important to note that most people at least in the US have very few really deep friends, guys especially. It's not like the old days, where you died living next to the people you were born next to. People move all the time. You combine that with our more solitary lifestyles where we don't know our neighbors, our isolating technologies (like TV and Internet) and lots of time devoted to shallow relationships at work and it all adds up to us having large networks of contacts, but very few honest to god friendships. We're all wounded people that need to protect ourselves from others, we can't expose our vulnerabilities in a way that is necessary for a deep relationship.
I don't have much advice, but here's what I think will help.
When you make friends, make an effort to share yourself on a more intimate level. What are the stories of your past that helped shape who you are today. Share your vulnerabilities and weaknesses, but in a way that doesn't lean on them or expect anything of them. Share your dreams and goals no matter how unachievable they seem. Make an effort to share the real and genuine you, and don't put on a mask like most people do. Most people don't have much practice being intimate, so don't expect them to open up right away but be persistent.
I also think this is a good time to put out an intention for what you want. In my mind this is an easy goal for the universe to help you out with.
Good Luck
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