[NotesMaeve]

My boyfriend suffers from depression he will not get treated.

He has not tried to have sex with me in weeks. If we have sex, it's the same position. I voice my concerns, but it never pays off. He doesn't like going out or doing much. He's a good boyfriend and does nice things for me, but the romance isn't there. (He does the older brother-like burping and farting thing around me, despite my objections.)

He's not a bad guy. He pays his bills, is nice to other people, respectful to his parents. In many ways I'm lucky. Last week he bought me a food processor, which is great since I cook. He gives me a kiss every morning.

I was hanging out with a male friend of mine who has a chronic illness. The attention he paid me was amazing. He's bright, more tolerant of my hobbies, and affectionate. He is positive despite his struggles. He is attractive and active. My boyfriend says he wants to get in shape but never acts on it.

My boyfriend said we might have sex tonight, but once again, he has a headache when the time comes. It's just frustrating. I'm young, pretty, slender, successful, in shape, have incredibly hot people interested in me, and yet he doesn't care, despite me saying things have to change. Is it all right to just give up? I don't hate him, but I'm sick of rejection. I'm sick of feeling not good enough, of him not caring enough about himself or me to remedy his horrible gas problems, sleep issues, and general poor motivation.

I don't want to be a quitter, but I just don't want to work on this anymore. I've given it a year and nothing has changed. I don't hate him, but I can't be carrying this relationship alone. I can be dating someone like my friend, having fun, being young and enjoying attention, but instead I'm wasting my life in an uneven relationship where I will never get the emotional backing I want. My boyfriend freaks out that I have needs. If I am upset or yell or cry over anything, he does his damnedest to ignore me or shut me up as quickly as possible. I'm just tired of it.