these are ego traits and that is why it makes you bonkers when you see it in your mom.
All I can say is that as long as you focus on it, it will exist either within you or projected out in the form of another.
So what if people look at you funny. So what if you talk a blue streak? So what if you are vital and full of life? So what if your mom is like that? I dislike being around others or in situations which make me feel I'm walking on eggshells and cannot behave as myself. For some reason you are judging your mother and yourself extremely harsh and wanting you & she to stifle yourselves.
Personally, I love being around people who are like that, so open, honest, and refreshingly alive (provided they aren't cussing, jumping on tables and acting crass). I say stop judging yourself and your mom and refocus on the things about her and yourself that you value and love.
sorry if this didn't help much.