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Originally Posted by norbert  Nothing! Ask questions. Let them speak. Be interested in them.
"Seek first to understand, then to be understood." --Stephen Covey
Most of the time you'll find you're very similar anyways.
I'm very good at this one. Still, sadly I don't find the people I'm looking for :-) |
Yes, i know this theory; that a good listener will always be more liked and loved than the best story teller. Though i do have some exceptional stories.
As for not finding the people you're looking for, i truely believe that's how it is/will be for me, perhaps not for the same reasons. Though i think this is part of the reason i don't jump out there and try to make friends regardless of the fact i do want them. I'm quite a unique person in many many ways and in many situations i think people believe me to be strange, weird, etc- but truthfully i'm just different. Also what's so strange about coming off as a weird/strange person to many people.., i've taken the MMPI (a looonnnggg psychology test) and tested "more normal than any patient i've every had" according to my ex-therapist- i tested normal in every field except aggression, where i tested slightly higher than normal. So it somewhat baffles me why i seem so different to others.
Is it just that i'm normal, and in actuality they're all the weirdos? haha
Honestly, in my high school years, i actually (unfortunately) preteneded to be less intelligent than i really am to make friends. It did work very well, but the friends i made were for the most part, not true friends. Nor were most of them people i'd always be content having a friendship with.